~Freelance Writer, T. Robertson
Begin your journey to rediscover the art of sexual ecstasy. The best way to do this is to get in touch with all of your senses on a very intimate and in-depth level. I want to start with the classical senses and then work to the more intricate ones. There can be so much fun in playing with the sense of sight. The visual is typically the first stimulator of the mind so, in essence, it is an art of optical foreplay. The way you stand, the look you give, how you smile, and even the way you blink all factor into catching the eye of you mate or potential suitor.
Flirting is defined as a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual of romantic interest in the other person. Now, as obvious as this may seem men and women are not executing this technique correctly or appropriately. This goes for singles and couples alike. Please keep in mind that just because you are married or in a relationship does not mean you have to stop flirting. You can still flirt with your mate no matter how long you have been together. Ladies, any good flirt can stop a man in his tracks with one glance. It is all in the intensity of your eye contact. Now, I’m not saying stare obsessively at your target that tends to make people uncomfortable. But three things you should always be conscious of when attempting to capture the attention of a potential target are the intense eye, the perfect arch, and the semi smile.
There is an art that can be played while sitting at the bar I like to call playing with the peripherals. This part of optical foreplay means that you know how to be noticed without being seen. What I mean by this is that you can use your body language to give off strong “proteans” that show sensuality and interest without being overly obvious. Proteans are subtle; sometimes subconscious, flirtatious signals that are sent went first meeting a person. For example, find yourself a seat. Position your body as if you are sitting at a bar or table. With your hand, cup the side of your neck delicately, mostly using your fingertips. Now, tilt your head slightly bringing your chin toward the palm of your hand and glance over at your intended target hitting him with the intense eye and giving the semi smile. Be sure not to look for long; just enough to where your eyes meet for three seconds and look away. This small gesture implies interest and shows a hint of shyness, but makes it known that you are approachable.
This same detail can also be applied in a slightly different manner to display sexual intent, that is, if you are aiming for a stronger, more direct approach. Let’s try it. Again, sit (or stand) with your back straight, and slightly arched. This time use your hand to grace the front of your neck starting below the chin and gently caress the length of your neck tilting your head back giving your target the three second glance, intense eye and semi smile and look away. Brushing the center of your neck portrays more of a sexual interest while the side of your neck is intended to coy and subtle.
The small details all factor into optical foreplay. The visual makes the first impression to snag the attention of that man (or woman) that you may have your eye on. Carry yourself with confidence in any social situation, and always walk as if the wind is in your hair.
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
What You See Is What You Get!
~Freelance Writer, V. Bostic
What you see is what you get! Or is it? How do you read to a passerby? Have you ever wondered what does one gather from your aura? Do you exude who you truly are, or do you present an illusion of who you would like others to believe you are?
We are all people watchers. Interestingly enough, not only do we watch people, but we dig a little deeper in our predictions of one another and attempt to determine what shoes an individual is filling. The tools we use to make such an analysis vary greatly. For the most part, whether we use our tools responsibly or irresponsibly, consciously or unconsciously, simply being a participant of life will, undoubtedly, influence you to exercise your ability to use your inner tools in determining who another individual truly is.
I guess one could argue that it is all based on perceptions. Ideally, that is a fair statement. Why does it even matter? Well, for some people it doesn’t matter, but for those of us who like to uncover some of the mysteries in life, it does. Perceptions are real to the beholder; they are vital to the way life unfolds. It seems that perceptions are very similar to dreams, and just like dreams, they can only ignite to the multitude in which one views life.
Has this ever happened to you? You know of a person in passing only. Perhaps you work with this individual or live in the same neighborhood. Maybe you have heard from others that this person is a mean troublemaker. Subconsciously you may not realize that you’ve accepted that statement from others as true. One day, during an encounter, this individual looks directly into your eyes and does not speak or acknowledge you. As a matter of fact, this happens every time you encounter this person. You write it off as nothing because it only confirms what others have already said. Until one day you come across the same person who, surprisingly, says hello. Suddenly a friendly conversation develops, and you learn of some things the two of you have in common. It turns out to be a long-lasting friendship.
It is very possible that the previous scenario is a common one. It seems that we are constantly releasing an old perception. Who are you? That’s what we are really saying. It is much easier to understand someone when you have taken the time to get to know who they are. It is the difficult task of human relations. As perceptions are being exposed, discoveries are being born. It's nature’s way of uncovering the hidden value in risk taking, in having the ability to change, and more importantly, in being human. Consequently, the way we see one another, whether true or false, lies greatly in the way we see ourselves. Keep in mind that in order to recognize negative characteristics in others, it must first be present in oneself.
Ultimately, we are like books, and we all have different covers. You can’t truly know the content of a book until you’ve taken the time to read it. It's fair to say that the cover of one’s book is his or her way of self-expression, or like a magnetic force to attract others. It is the silent way we invite others to walk in our shoes. Therefore, is what you see what you get? Maybe not, but whoever you are, and however the rest of the world perceives you, when given the chance, never miss the opportunity to allow someone to read your story.
What you see is what you get! Or is it? How do you read to a passerby? Have you ever wondered what does one gather from your aura? Do you exude who you truly are, or do you present an illusion of who you would like others to believe you are?
We are all people watchers. Interestingly enough, not only do we watch people, but we dig a little deeper in our predictions of one another and attempt to determine what shoes an individual is filling. The tools we use to make such an analysis vary greatly. For the most part, whether we use our tools responsibly or irresponsibly, consciously or unconsciously, simply being a participant of life will, undoubtedly, influence you to exercise your ability to use your inner tools in determining who another individual truly is.
I guess one could argue that it is all based on perceptions. Ideally, that is a fair statement. Why does it even matter? Well, for some people it doesn’t matter, but for those of us who like to uncover some of the mysteries in life, it does. Perceptions are real to the beholder; they are vital to the way life unfolds. It seems that perceptions are very similar to dreams, and just like dreams, they can only ignite to the multitude in which one views life.
Has this ever happened to you? You know of a person in passing only. Perhaps you work with this individual or live in the same neighborhood. Maybe you have heard from others that this person is a mean troublemaker. Subconsciously you may not realize that you’ve accepted that statement from others as true. One day, during an encounter, this individual looks directly into your eyes and does not speak or acknowledge you. As a matter of fact, this happens every time you encounter this person. You write it off as nothing because it only confirms what others have already said. Until one day you come across the same person who, surprisingly, says hello. Suddenly a friendly conversation develops, and you learn of some things the two of you have in common. It turns out to be a long-lasting friendship.
It is very possible that the previous scenario is a common one. It seems that we are constantly releasing an old perception. Who are you? That’s what we are really saying. It is much easier to understand someone when you have taken the time to get to know who they are. It is the difficult task of human relations. As perceptions are being exposed, discoveries are being born. It's nature’s way of uncovering the hidden value in risk taking, in having the ability to change, and more importantly, in being human. Consequently, the way we see one another, whether true or false, lies greatly in the way we see ourselves. Keep in mind that in order to recognize negative characteristics in others, it must first be present in oneself.
Ultimately, we are like books, and we all have different covers. You can’t truly know the content of a book until you’ve taken the time to read it. It's fair to say that the cover of one’s book is his or her way of self-expression, or like a magnetic force to attract others. It is the silent way we invite others to walk in our shoes. Therefore, is what you see what you get? Maybe not, but whoever you are, and however the rest of the world perceives you, when given the chance, never miss the opportunity to allow someone to read your story.
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